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  • Wedding Venues and Wedding Photos

    Wedding Venues and Wedding Photos

    As a photographer myself I’m pretty confident that my dream wedding venue would have loads of great spots for photos. Photographs are really important to me. I record my life on a near-constant basis through the lenses of various cameras. I’ve got no reason to think that my wedding would be any different!

    I often see photographers on forums and Facebook groups discussing what equipment they need for weddings at great length. And often these discussions are focused on the light (or lack of it) during the ceremony. It can be a really difficult thing to photograph a wedding ceremony that happens somewhere without great natural light. So if photographs of your wedding day are as important to you as they would be to me then I’d like to tell you a little bit about what will help your photographer out.

    Look for Great Natural Light

    Big windows. That’s usually what it comes down to. Big windows that aren’t North facing. But beautiful historic buildings often lack huge glass windows. Weddings in magical old historic buildings often don’t have much light though, which does then make things much harder for the photographer. Although, most good photographers would cope admirably, especially those who have knowledge of how to work in minimum light. A professional can also help in deciding on the best possible photoshoot spot in the wedding venue that can work for the duration of the wedding. However, it could be much better to have a photographer who is excelling themselves because they don’t have to worry about the light!

    That’s why venues like Cain Manor are so great. It’s a gorgeous country house with a huge modern barn-style music room that is licensed to hold ceremonies. The windows are floor to ceiling and your wedding photographer will not be disappointed at the wonderful light that they’ve got to work with! The quality of your wedding photos will be superb, and all your photographer has to do is focus on capturing the emotions of the ceremony.

    Find a Stylish but Timeless Venue

    Have you ever looked at your parents wedding album? I have. It’s a horrible seventies monstrosity with orange carpets and my Nan wearing massive platform shoes. Orange carpets might have been cool back then, but they certainly aren’t now.

    If you’re going to want to put your wedding photos on the wall (and why wouldn’t you?) then look for a denver wedding venue or maybe one in your vicinity, with neutral colors and timeless elegance. White or light-coloured furniture, accents that won’t date quickly, and classic decor are what you’re after. Yes, it might be cool to have your wedding in that fancy ultra-modern wine bar in the big city but it a decade or two the veneer will have worn thin!

    By picking timeless classics for your venue, dress, and accessories you’ll want to have your wedding photos on display for much longer than they might otherwise stick around. And why shouldn’t you? You’ll have paid an awful lot of money to have a photographer come along to your dream wedding!

    Most Importantly – Put Your Spin On It

    I know it would be important for me to put my own spin on my wedding and the wedding photos that get taken. I’m not sure quite what that would look like, but I’m pretty sure it would involve me working with my photographer to get everything right. I’d probably even choose my photographer before my venue just to make sure that everything was compatible!

  • A Dream Wedding in Paris

    A Dream Wedding in Paris

    I don’t know what it was about Paris, but I really fell in love with the city. I think if I was to get married, then Paris would definitely be a dream wedding destination for me. There’s something about Paris that oozes both charm and sophistication. I mean, imagine hiring a private jet for your close family and friends and marrying your love of life in Paris. It’s like a dream come true. I know there are costs involved, but for that, you can use aids like private jet charter cost estimator or similar applications, probably consult a wedding planner to calculate the wedding costs, etc. Paris, also called a City of Love, could be a perfect wedding destination.

    I don’t know if it was getting up early and finding a bakery to provide me with a strong black coffee and a pastry for a few Euros (this is how lots of Parisians eat in the morning so it’s super cheap) or lounging around late at night on the pavement seating outside of the cafes in the city center. But I just felt like I was somehow doing pretty well at life when I was out there for my combined thirtieth birthday and university study trip!

    The image above was shot in the Musée d’Orsay. It’s a converted railway station that was originally built at the turn of the last century and it is stunning. I’ve always thought that the idea of getting married in an art gallery was terribly romantic. Especially, if you can be surrounded by statues depicting myths and legends to do with love.

    Booking your Dream Wedding Photographer

    Over the years I’ve interviewed a few photographers who specialise in destination weddings and they all say similar things. The first piece of advice they give is to make sure you book your dream wedding photographer early. Destination weddings take a chunk of the photographers time, more than a regular wedding, and so it’s worth looking around very early and putting a deposit down.

    You’ll also want to shoot with your photographer as soon as possible to make sure you’re compatible. Some people just don’t get on and that’s ok! Many photographers encourage an engagement shoot for exactly this reason – so that they can learn about you and you can learn about them. When you book a photographer for a destination wedding you’re likely to spend a few days with them. You want to make the most of paying for them to be out there after all!

    Hiring a photographer who knows the city and its wedding venues is always a good idea too. Whether it’s someone who has gone there many times as a visitor, or someone who is an old hand at photographing weddings there. It means that they’ll spend less time scouting for locations and more time photographing you. They’ll probably have some great recommendations with regards to eating, drinking, and sightseeing too! You’ll also want to see if your photographer works with any suppliers. Photographers often have great relationships with other creatives and might be able to put you in touch with people who can really add the perfect finishing touches to your big day.

    Creating Your Own Vision

    Everyone has their own vision of what their dream wedding might look like. For me it’s an art gallery in one of the most sophisticated cities on the planet. For others I’m sure it would be entirely different. What’s important is that you do it in a way that feels authentic to you.

    Oh, and I would totally wear a couture black suit to get married in if I was getting married in Paris. And I’d feel chic in a way that only Paris can make you feel.

  • Does Blogging Help Your Handmade Business?

    Does Blogging Help Your Handmade Business?

    The short answer is yes; blogging for handmade business’ can totally be a way to help get sales! The long answer to “does blogging help your handmade business” is that it is not entirely straight forward. However there’s nothing difficult about blogging and it’s something everyone can do as part of their business!

    I’m not going to tell you how to set up a blog here (although I do suggest you go with WordPress as a platform). There are hundreds of people on the internet who will teach you to put together a WordPress site better than I could. However I am going to tell you the kind of things you want to write and how they will boost your handmade business through blogging.

    Identify Your Ideal Customer

    I’ve said it on other posts about running your handmade business, but it is always worth saying it again. Especially here. Identify who your ideal customer is. Once you know who they are you can start to work out what kind of blogs they like to read (if they like to read them at all!). Knowing where your customer hangs out online and what they like doing is key to marketing to them.

    Assuming your ideal customer is a blog reader you want to work out what kind of content they’ll stop and spend time reading. For example if you make kids accessories then a parenting blog might be your ideal customers thing. They might like to read about your story and your kids, and about the tips on how you’ve brought up great, well rounded, mini versions of you.

    I make costume accessories for live action roleplaying. This means my ideal customers are the people who do the hobby and who need costume. Although I link to my shop frequently on this blog I never make sales from the leads I make here. However I do make lots of sales from a related website that I run. Several years ago I started up a community website that deals with all aspects of playing roleplaying games. Because I chat with lots of my customers I’ve found that lots of them come specifically from an article I wrote on how to put a great costume together for LARP.

    Once You Figure It Out, Keep Writing!

    Once I figured out the kind of content that was sending customers to me I immediately started planning new articles. In my case I identified that the costumes I’d taken drew people in from Facebook and Pinterest, but the content of the article was what made it sharable on social media (and indeed sent it vital within the community).

    Essentially the articles that I was writing allowed my products to solve a problem that my visitor had. The question that my visitors were asking was “how do I put together a great costume for my character?” My article never directly says “buy my products” but they do provide pretty pictures and a link which then encourages customers to take a look around the shop. There’s also a small call to action near the bottom suggesting that if people would like a similar outfit they can head on over to my Etsy shop! I don’t enjoy doing the hard sell; I’d rather people came to me because they really, really wanted something that I make.

    Communicating Your Brand Values

    Blogging is unique in that it can communicate alot about you and your business in a very informal way. When considering blogging for handmade business you really do need to make sure that your brand values are absolutely clear in your mind and that every post you make helps to reinforce them.

    Although it can seem daunting to reveal lots of information about yourself on the internet don’t be too worried. Try to avoid giving out information that would make you vulnerable (such as your address and your holiday dates) but remember that people love to see the person behind the business when you’re a small handmade company.

    Stick To A Schedule

    It is the hardest part of blogging. And I should know, I’ve been blogging for over a decade now! Start with twice a month, or if you’re feeling on top of your game once a week. The most successful blogs get updated frequently with great content and a couple of times a week would be a great thing to aim for.

    Remember to think outside the box when you’re writing posts. For instance if you make gorgeous tote bags then a day out would provide you with the opportunity to shoot lifestyle images. You can blog about what you did for the day (it could be anything from a trip to the city to a trip to the seaside) and include the photos in your blog post. Don’t forget to link to where your readers can buy the product!

    Remember that the more content you produce the more readers will come back to read it.

    Collect Email Addresses

    As soon as you set your blog up you should get a mailing list set up too. Who you decide to use to host your mailing list is something for another post, but make sure you get collecting those email addresses ASAP!

    Why? Because it means that Etsy and Facebook aren’t in control of me contacting my customers. You never know when a service might either close its doors or charge you to be in touch with the people who want to hear from you. On Etsy you also can’t send messages out to everyone interested in your shop so a mailing list really is essential for you to keep in touch with your customers.

    I offer in my shop a 10% discount when you sign up to my mailing list. It is always good to offer an incentive, it much increases the chance that readers will give you their email address if they think they’re getting something in return. That could be some digital downloads, a percentage coupon, or even a monetary coupon. Whatever works for you and your business – and that’ll be different for everyone.

    Blogging For Handmade Business

    So with all that in mind, hopefully you’ll consider starting your blog and writing about your product. The traction you can get if a blog post goes viral on social media is incredible and it could end up making or breaking your shop. It’s all about creating content that is beautiful, useful, and also on brand for your business.

    Good luck!

  • Finding a Sewing Niche and Making Money

    Finding a Sewing Niche and Making Money

    .Over the years I’ve often seen people in sewing groups on Facebook claim that people just don’t value handmade things and it’s impossible to make a living from sewing or “crafts.” Now, I’m pretty sure that if you work hard at finding your sewing niche and producing a great product it’s possible to build a successful business. However I’m making approximately half my income from sewing (and the other half from writing) so perhaps I’m biased on this subject. Nevertheless I thought it still deserved a blog post.

    People Won’t Pay For Handmade

    Like, take a look around. At the very top end of the handmade spectrum you’ve got high end fine and applied art being sold regularly for thousands or even millions of pounds. That is one end of the spectrum, with people paying a few pounds for things at my local church craft fair at the other.

    To say that people won’t pay for handmade things is nothing but a lie – people pay for handmade things all the time. (And I’m not even going to get into the snobby definition of handmade here – handmade in a factory in China is just as handmade as if I make it in my bedroom). I bet every person reading this post had paid for something handmade before. I’m pretty sure most adults have paid for handmade things.

    So with that in mind…

    You’re Pitching Your Sewing Niche Wrong

    If people won’t buy what you’re selling then you’ve got two big potential reasons why:

    • You’re not making something that people want to buy.
    • You’ve not found your audience.

    Of course there are other reasons why too, but fundamentally most businesses fail because either the product isn’t something people want or need, or the people who would buy the product don’t know you exist.

    Here’s an example. A (distant) relative some time ago asked me for feedback on their product and for my thoughts on why they seemed unable to sell it. They sent me a picture. It was a baby bedding set for prams. If you imagine the most sticky pink pram set with ruffles, ribbons, and lace, then you double the amount of ruffles, ribbons, and lace that you imagined, you might be part of the way there. She lamented the fact that she’d been marketing these to young mums through parenting groups on Facebook and the like but hadn’t sold any.

    It was with great care that I gave her feedback. I pointed out that this style largely went out of fashion several decades ago and so she might want to consider marketing them to grandparents as a pram set for when baby stays with them instead of young millenials… and also pointed out that they were quite expensive and people are more likely to place value on something if they see it in an upscale boutique rather than on a Facebook group.

    It occurred to me that my relative hadn’t even spent a fiver on a parenting magazine as market research to see what was stylish and in demand right now. Really they didn’t even have to spend a fiver – they could have looked on Pinterest or one of the many blogs out there. They were so out of touch with what young mums were generally looking to buy that their product was never going to sell. Their sewing niche was deeply flawed – they had a product that wasn’t right for their target buyer.

    You Don’t Have To Be In Touch With Your Tribe

    It isn’t always required to be active in the community that you sell to. I have been doing a reasonably brisk trade in Pagan wedding vestments this year despite not being Pagan or in the community. It started when I had a custom order from someone on Etsy who suggested I post in a couple of Facebook groups. I did, she endorsed me, it worked! A small but steady stream of orders come in from that niche.

    On the other hand, most of my orders come from a community that I’m very active in. I make custom costume for live action roleplay (LARP) and see most of my business come via word of mouth on Facebook.

    I know who my tribe are. They’re people who want beautiful custom costume. They want it made to a high standard from good quality materials that will last. My target market care about how they look and have the money to make themselves look good, but maybe not the time, equipment, or skills to make things themselves.

    Once you know who your ideal buyer is you can find them and market to them. If it sounds simple, it’s because it is. Working out who is your ideal buyer is the hard part. If you get it wrong you won’t have a successful sewing business.

    People Don’t Value Sewing As A Skill

    This is the phrase that winds me up something terrible. And often it annoys me more because some people imply that “young people” specifically don’t value sewing. It is true that some people don’t value sewing as a skill. However some people don’t value cooking as a skill either. Yet there are thousands of restaurants serving food up and down the country.

    I am the product of a Grandfather who was a British Army tailor and who went on to work on Savile Row, his wife and my Grandmother who was a machinist in a clothes factory, and my other Grandmother who taught me to sew by showing me how to darn my fathers socks (before moving on to more exciting projects). I value sewing as a skill.

    Many of my friends also value sewing as a skill. Some of them sew themselves, most of them don’t. Many of them save up and buy beautiful handmade things from local artists as often as they can. However they won’t just buy anything. They want beautiful, well designed, well made products that fit with their lifestyle choices, hobbies, and tastes. But when they do find something they love they’ll often spend a lot of money. The people they spend money with often have a real targeted sewing niche. They’re doing a small handful of things very well. And they’re appealing to an enthusiastic target audience.

    Once again it comes down to the fact that to build your sewing business you have to define your target audience, find them, produce something they want, and market to them.

    People Won’t Pay For Crafts

    I suspect this is probably true. However I also suspect that this has more to do with branding  marketing than anything else.

    I don’t sell crafts. I sell handmade, custom garments that enhance people’s pastimes, jobs, or special events. My branding isn’t “crafty” in any way. It’s sleek and simple, and is specifically designed to appeal to my target market.

    And look, I’ll be honest, if you’re making the kind of thing you can find in a craft tutorial on Pinterest, and you’re trying to sell it at craft fairs or to people like yourself who like crafting, then you’re unlikely to ever sell much. Because those people will just look at the stuff on your stall or your site, find a tutorial, and make one themselves.

    You need to find a different target market, or a different product, or perhaps even both.

    Good luck in building your business. Find your sewing niche.

  • I Am A Journalist; Tell Me Your Story

    I Am A Journalist; Tell Me Your Story

    I’ve been a freelance journalist for… well… about six years now I guess. Perhaps seven? I can’t remember, I’d have to dig out the first invoices I sent to know for sure. I’ve done a fair bit of writing in that time for all kinds of outlets, and the one thing in common with all of them is that people always have an opinion.

    In all honesty, people having an opinion about your writing is generally what you’re looking for. It’s great, I love it when people interact with the things I’m saying and potentially even open my eyes to things I’d not considered before. What I don’t love is when people say to me “you should have included this” or “why have you never told this story?” Because the truth is that I usually didn’t include that or tell your story because nobody has ever told me that this thing existed.

    Contrary to what many people believe, I don’t while away the hours searching the internet for an exciting story to write about. I’ve come across a few by accident over the years but rarely is this how a magazine starts. So here’s the lowdown on how it works with me. I suspect not every journalist or every field works the same way, so assume that these are guidelines rather than firm rules.

    Tell Someone

    You know how people hear about your cool thing? You tell them. You might be aware of something called press releases – well this is the formal version of “telling someone.” Every week I get numerous press releases drop into my inbox from various companies and charities telling me their news and their future plans. You want to do this as far in advance as possibl too – I’ve got a press release from the National Portrait Gallery sitting on the end of my desk announcing a gallery show for June 2019! That’s 10 months away!

    Remember though, 10 months in journalism terms isn’t that long. While blogs and daily media might work on an editorial schedule of just a few days ahead, it can be much longer for other forms of print publication. One magazine I write for is published every two months. To get a feature out in the May 2019 issue I need to have submitted it by the start of April at the very latest – ideally half way though March would be better. And for that feature I might have to source interviewees, images, and then spend time actually writing the feature in a way that is going to be right for the outlet. You’ve gotta give me a few weeks notice on that – two months ideally. So then you’re talking half way through January to let me know for a June event. You see how time can start to mount up?

    Tell Them All About It

    I’m not going to lie – the more info you give me the better. I don’t just want a vague two word description. See if you can write an A4 side with all the details about your thing in it. Do the work for me. Provide me with some nice soundbite quotes from someone in your organisation or someone relevant in the field (a short paragraph each is great). Give contact details (an email is fine) of people who will be happy to speak further to me. Then make yourself available. Ideally on Skype so that it’s free for me to call you.

    And don’t forget to tell me the date if it’s time sensitive. You’d be amazed at how many people don’t tell me that.

    I’ll be honest, if you don’t include these things then the likelihood is that your press release will be hitting my gmail trash pretty quickly. If you do include all those things, you’ve got a good chance of being printed and then filed into my monthly filing system of things to try and make articles out of in the future.

    Send Pictures

    Make them good. A picture tells a thousand words, apparently. Don’t steal the images from elsewhere. Provide a headshot of yourself if it’s relevant.

    This is a good time to hire a photographer if you’re not one yourself. If you can’t afford to hire a photographer then find an enthusiastic photography student and see if they’ll do a trade. If not a friend with a camera outside is better than nothing.

    Make the images as big as possible. Don’t shrink them down for me. Don’t make them black and white unless there’s a bloody good reason. Don’t send them in the email – provide a link to a dropbox or google folder in the press release. Even better, set up a “media” or “press” section on your website, and have all your press releases and media downloads available there. I’ll probably bookmark your page and keep checking back if you do that.

    Have A Story

    “Sandy runs a photography business” isn’t an interesting story. There are thousands of people out there like sandy. Here are some things that are stories:

    • Sandy runs a photography business and has just won a national award for entrepreneurship because of her unique approach to business.
    • Sandy runs a photography business and has set up a scheme working with youth offenders teaching them photography so that they can become independent businesspeople like her.
    • Sandy runs a photography business and is one of the founders of a charity working with women in refuges helping them to find meaning in their lives again and explore their trauma through art.
    • Sandy runs a photography business and has recently spend two months travelling in Afghanistan documenting how young women are embracing photographic technology that they’ve never had access to before.

    Seriously, if you’re doing that last one then I want to know about it. I could pitch that story to half a dozen outlets this afternoon.

    How Do You Find A Journalist?

    It depends where you want to get your story published really. In magazines and on blogs authors will usually have their byline at the head (or the bottom) of the article. If it’s online you should be able to click the link and find their contact details. If it’s print then you might need to do a little google. In print magazines too on the first page (usually where the contents is) there’s almost always a section that tells you who the magazine’s regular contributors are. If in doubt give the magazine a call and ask them who you should send press releases too. You might get the email of someone working there. Or they might put you in touch with a freelancer who writes that kind of content for them.

    You can also look on social media to find them. Most journalists I know are on social media a lot because they spend large chunks of their days sat at the computer. The Twitter hashtag #journorequest is a pretty good one to follow. Lots of journalists post there.

    So, that’s that really. Nobody will write about you if you don’t tell them what you’re up to. You have to be your own publicist. Or hire one I guess.

  • How To Choose Your Wedding Photographer

    How To Choose Your Wedding Photographer

    I like to think I know a fair bit about wedding photography. Over the years I’ve interviewed many wedding photographers for photography magazines. Actually photographing weddings is not for me, but I love to look at the photos! But how to choose your wedding photographer can seem like a mystical process at times! It’s full of unknowns if you’ve never done it before. So here’s some thoughts about how to go choose the photographer and get pictures that you’ll hopefully treasure for the rest of your life.

    Find A Photographer You Like

    No, I don’t mean their work, I mean them. You’re potentially going to be spending an awful lot of time with this person on one of the most important days of your life. They’re going to be there from the moment you’re sitting there is a dressing gown, to potentially as late as when you get in the car and go home. They’re going to spend time with your friends too.

    You want someone approachable and fun, and who’s style fits the setting of your wedding. Ask what they wear as their ‘photographers uniform.’ If you’re going for something really relaxed do you want someone in a stuffy, old fashioned suit? Equally someone in a cute swing dress might not be what you’re after for a formal cathedral wedding…

    They need to fit your style as much as you need to fit theirs. They won’t perform their best if they’re not enthused about your wedding and your style. Meet as many photographers as you need to in order to choose your wedding photographer. You can do your initial research on the Internet by looking for a Brooklyn Wedding Photographer (or wherever your location would be) and going through their portfolio first. If you like their work at first glance, then approach them. Speak to a few before finalizing on one (or two) photographer(s).

    I’m also going to suggest that you consider how comfortable you are likely to be with your photographer during your prep. I know that if I was having a photographer in my home while I’m having my makeup and hair done and while I’m getting ready, well, I’d probably want a woman. There’s nothing wrong with that either – it’s your day.

    Fall In Love With Their Work

    It seems obvious, doesn’t it? You want a photographer who takes pictures that you love! The pictures are ultimately what you’re going to be keeping forever, so you do need someone who takes pictures you love (as well as someone who is fun to be around).

    When you choose your wedding photographer, make sure to go through a couple of albums. Any photographer can stage a shoot in a nice location with attractive models. Any photographer can take six hours shooting the perfect bridal portrait. This is the reason why you may want to see a whole wedding album from a single wedding. You may want to see how their work looks when they’re working under pressure and on the fly. It’s important to choose your wedding photographer based on a couple of whole albums rather than just a few portfolio shots.

    Embrace Technology

    Even if you choose your wedding photographer very carefully and they’re great at their job, they don’t always catch the little personal moments. For that reason I’d urge anyone getting married to also sign up to a service that allows you to collect your guests memories of the day too! They can work as a beautiful, informal memento from the day alongside the formal album from your photographer. Websites such as Wedding Photo Swap can allow you to collect and share wedding photos from your special day with ease.

    Some photographers don’t like this approach and ask that guests put their cameras away during the wedding. However if you’re a young, digitally connected couple who embrace technology… why shy away from it at this important moment?

  • Making A Living From a Sewing Business

    Making A Living From a Sewing Business

    I’m not quite sure how it happened. One day I had a single product that I thought might sell to a few roleplayers, the next I was making half my monthly income from sewing and embroidering costume pieces! Well a little more than a few moments – about seven months to be exact. My sewing business had taken off!

    I made a few commissions in 2017 and had a listing or two in my Etsy store, but I didn’t really kick it off until January 2018. And here we are at the beginning of August and I’m so backed up with orders that I’m not quite sure what to do! It’s a good situation to be in and I’m not complaining at all! So while I ponder the future, I thought I’d put together a few thoughts on why I’ve managed to do so well.

    Everything is Top Quality

    This absolutely had to come first. I didn’t want to put out shoddy work at any point in the process. Everything is beautifully finished. No raw seams on view. Hand stitching is done wherever hand stitching needs to be done – even if you can’t see it.

    I use great quality fabrics and great quality threads. That means that the embroidery is lustrous and the fabric sturdy enough to stand up for the kind of abuse you get at LARP.

    My Branding and Photography is On Point

    Mosswood Studio Costume Pouch for Empire LRP

    I had quite a strong idea of what I wanted my branding to be like when I started. Black and white, reasonably minimalist, but while maintaining a somewhat timeless and esoteric feeling.

    In the end I settled on some relatively modern block lettering, with a cute little black and white octopus design. The whole thing is easy to reproduce in two colours on every bit of digital and print branding. I even have little labels that I sew into everything I make.

    I’m not saying that I’m an expert with graphics or branding, but I did read a few books on the subject and spent some time thinking about it. Plus I guess my background in History of Art means that I’m starting from somewhat of an advantage.

    Hand in hand with branding goes photography. Again I’ve got some experience here; a year working in London as a specialist fashion and product photography set me up with some good techniques and a keen eye for detail. I started with clean, clear images that were overwhelmingly shot on a grey background. Everything that could be shown on a mannequin was. I believe it made a huge difference compared to the usual LARP imagery that you see.

    More recently I’ve been experimenting with slightly more styled and creative photographs as you can see here. I used to really enjoy shooting ‘flats’ at work – or flat-lays as the internet now seems to call them! If this style of photography will make a big difference or not remains to be seen. However I can’t see that it would do any harm and I do enjoy putting the images together. I also rather enjoy shopping for props for my photos. But perhaps I should do a little less of that or I won’t have any money!

    I Advertised Organically

    Putting a little advertisement on a LARP website that I run was a smart idea. I kept the advert clean and simple, chose some pictures that were reasonably generic but had striking, bold colours, and popped it in the sidebar. It’s brought my relatively huge amounts of traffic. If I didn’t run a related blog in the same niche as my business, I’d definitely be paying to be featured on one.

    I also made gifts for friends. They posted pictures of their kit online, and people would ask where it was from. It generated several hundred pounds worth of orders. Word of mouth referral is a very positive thing in hobby communities. It’s a very genuine form of marketing and is also extremely effective. Would I have made and given those gifts anyway? Of course, I would. I never asked them to post online nor expected a referral. Anything I got was a bonus, and it’s how you should look at things if you give them away to friends. I sometimes also send free goodies to my customers along with personalised postcards, business cards, etc. In this way, they might also tell their friends about such additional benefits and spread the word about my business.

    Influencer marketing is different of course, and that’s my next step. Shortly I’ll be contacting some of the ‘big names’ in LARP media production and seeing if they’d be interested in doing an exchange. I reckon some unboxing videos might be nice too, I really take pride in how I package and send my orders.

    On top of that I also posted in various sales groups on Facebook that are related to the hobby. Because I’m not a new voice in the community I think this carried far more weight than it would if I was an unknown. Although saying that, I posted in a Pagan sales group and made a sale within 12 hours… and I was a complete unknown there!

    You’ve Got To Do What Works For You

    Fundamentally you could do everything the same as I did and it just might not work. This handmade goods marketplace is so fickle, you just have to keep trying. A variety of approaches works best though, I think. It means that you’re not putting all your eggs in one basket.

    What If You Don’t Make Enough Money?

    It’s a fear that everyone starting their business has. Or at least a fear that they should have. But the reality is that being a self-employed creative professional should usually pay far better than a comparable job working for someone else. There are other benefits too, like working the hours that suit your lifestyle and being able to take time off for the things you want to do, but lets be honest the cash needs to add up as well.

    This infographic shows the difference in earnings between self-employed creative professionals and those employed in similar jobs in the US – it’s a fascinating read!

  • Online Dating for Older Women

    Online Dating for Older Women

    I used to be worried about hitting 30, but actually it was reasonably painless and nothing much changed. I’m fairly sure that 30 is the new 21 or something. I don’t feel old, even though my young 16 year old colleagues think I’m positively ancient (and the other week worked out that I’m legally old enough to be their mother…). Now I’m in my mid-thirties, and my 40th birthday isn’t actually that far off. Now, this bothers me because my earliest memory is of my Dad’s 40th birthday party. And my Dad isn’t young.

    Anyway. 40. It’s not that far off. I think that’s when in the dating community I start to get the “mature” label. Mind you, I already get that occasionally and I’m only in my mid-30s! There are plenty of men who are always looking to find mature cougar women. In fact, sometimes I think I might find more men to date when I hit my forties than I do now!

    Adopting The Cougar Label

    Will I adopt the “cougar” label when I’m older? Yes, I think so. I’ve always liked dating younger men and will quite happily meet 18 year olds with no real second thought. It’s not like I’m looking for a life partner, so I see no reason why I shouldn’t. I know that the word cougar as a label can sometimes have quite negative connotations, but as long as you’re adopting the label rather than being called it, then I think it’s fine.

    In fact, I think it’s more than fine. When I go to clubs, and when I’m looking online, I’m definitely looking to take the lead. I wouldn’t say predatory because I think that word can have quite negative connotations when used in the world of dating and sex, but I’ve never been shy of telling someone what I want and how I want it. I’ve never really restricted my friendship group by age, and I doubt I will do so in the future. So finding websites, when I’m older, that will help me to start friendships and potentially have relationships with younger men will certainly be on my list of things to do! That’s assuming that the online dating scene doesn’t change too much in the next couple of years!

    Like Mother Like Daughter

    Of course, none of this will come as any surprise to the people who know me. Both my Mum and my Aunt have married younger men after getting divorced! In fact, my stepdad is younger than one of my partners which everyone seems to find quite strange! It was difficult at first since he was so close to my own age, but now it turns out that having my Mum’s husband near the same age as myself is pretty cool. I don’t know if she’s a cougar, but she’s definitely an older lady married to a considerably younger man! Is that enough to quality? Perhaps.

    Fifteen years ago there used to be more of a stigma to both online dating and older women dating younger men, but I’m not sure that’s so much the case any longer. There’s more freedom in society to behave how you want and do the things that make you happy. This is excellent news of course and hopefully it’s just the beginning of the freedom that women, in particular, will have in the future. Nobody should be judged for who they want to date, or even just who they want to have sex with! Who you choose to meet and be intimate with is between the people involved and nobody else.

    I do wonder, if my Mum was single now, if she’d look online for a free older singles dating site. When she got together with my Stepdad she didn’t need to look online because she met him at work, but I wonder what she would have done if that hadn’t worked out for her. Would she have done online dating? She’s not the best with technology, but I like to think that perhaps she would have worked it out and met someone new.

    Technology Generation

    As we get older though, we’re a generation that was born into technology. Computer scientists in their forties are not unusual. They were the first generation to have computers as they left secondary school and went to university! Everyone now is so much better with technology and navigating the world of the internet. It does give me hope that people who are older and who have perhaps divorced, lost a loved one, or just simply chosen to have an open relationship are now being able to access websites where they can find lots of likeminded people.

  • How To Win At Online Dating

    How To Win At Online Dating

    I’ve been on an awful lot of dates over the years, almost all arranged online. Over the years I think I’ve worked out how to get the best out of online dating sites. Well, at least I seem to have worked out how to have the most fun with the least effort and drama which is a huge win for me! So without further ado – my tips for winning at online dating.

    Spend Time Talking To People

    Yes, I know it seems counterproductive if all you want is a fling. But honestly, try it out. I normally try and have contact with a month or so before I meet someone for a coffee. I’m not talking about every day, but a few exchanges a week will quickly give you a feel for the person. Then you won’t find yourself in the same awkward situation as one of my partners where he, as a dedicated socialist and campaigner or liberal issues managed to arrange a date on a certain ‘swipe’ app with someone who was a conservative lawyer handling distinctively non-liberal cases… I’m not saying it wouldn’t have worked… but…

    You also get an idea of what they’re going to be like during sex. If someone badgers you repeatedly to chat when you’re busy, or if they insist on doing things that you’ve asked them not to… well… it doesn’t bode well for meeting them and jumping into bed, does it? I always ask certain things of people I’m planning to meet (don’t call me nicknames like babe or hun, don’t ask me to sext before we’ve met, etc) so if they break those rules I know that they don’t respect my rules enough to meet me. I dread to think what he consequences might be if they broke other more intimate rules down the line.

    Meet For Coffee, Nor Beers or Dinner

    I always meet for coffee, not beers. Firstly because I don’t really drink these days, but secondly because even when I did it was too easy to say ‘go on, I’ll have another one then.’ Of course this also means that you can’t drive after a meet, meaning you either have to meet nearby or within public transport distance. All of these things increase the risk of being followed home, not getting home, or just getting a set of beer goggles attached and doing things you later regret!

    Why not dinner? Well trust me – even after pre-screening on dating sites and talking to people for a long time beforehand, some people are just absolutely dull in the flesh. Meeting for ‘a coffee’ gives you a break point where you can easily leave. Dinner means having to sit through potentially three courses plus coffee, and having to pay for the privilege of it too!

    Go Dutch

    You immediately know what kind of a person someone is if they refuse to go halves on the date. Obviously it’s hard to go halves on a round of coffee, but if they refuse to let you buy the second lot of coffees then… well… I’m not sure that’s a person I want to spend time with (your mileage may vary). I’ve been a student for the past six years and so I’ve not had an awful lot of cash free for dating, but I still always make sure that I date within my means and pay my way.

    Recognise That Elimination Is Progress

    They sent an off-colour message? Block. They were too pushy? Block. Didn’t fancy them? Block. Came across strangely over coffee? Block.

    I know, it’s not nice to get blocked. But you’re not here to put other peoples feeling’s before your own. Dating sites such as We Love Dates have an “ignore” function which you should use frequently whenever you’ve decided that someone is not for you. Why? Because then they can’t message you again and waste your time further.

    Working out that people aren’t for you is progress and you should absolutely recognise it as such. Don’t be afraid to say no – your time (both online and in person) is precious and you should treat it as if it was.

    Listen To Your Instincts

    If something doesn’t feel right then you need to listen to your gut feeling. I’m not saying that my gut is infallible, but it’s been right more times than my head and heart care to admit! You can always go on another coffee date if you’re not sure about someone – better than moving towards too quickly! The right people, who are interested in you, will be more than happy to wait until you’re happy.

    By following these snippets of my own advice I end up having lots of successful dates which often lead to more! I find that I rarely have no shows or uncomfortable moments further down the line because I put the time and effort in up front before things have progressed to the in-person stage.

    Using dating sites is a different beast to dating in person and is still relatively new. It’s unsurprising that some people are still trying to figure out how it all works and feel their way around the online dating community – but if you spend time figuring out what works for you, then I promise it’ll pay off in the future!

  • Creating Illustrated Manuals If You Can’t Draw

    Creating Illustrated Manuals If You Can’t Draw

    I’ve been wondering for some time if I should write some illustrated manuals for product photography in order to help fund my PhD. I’ve been asked to produce a guide many times over the last few years by several creative business owners. It makes sense really, I did spend a year working in a top fashion catalogue photography studio and I learned many skills during that time.

    It’s been rewarding to put that photography knowledge into practice in my own costume making business, and I’m entirely sure it has helped my sales. I know personally that I hesitate to buy anything online that doesn’t have great pictures. I’m sure others must be the same.

    So what’s stopping me? I guess it’s because I can’t draw.

    To be honest, I’ve got the writing bit down. I’ve been writing for magazines and other outlets as a freelancer for years now. The problem is that visual manuals are best. And if you can’t draw, then how do you create the illustrations that you need in order to demonstrate what you’re trying to teach your reader?

    My illustration of the Glass Tank Gallery at Oxford Brookes University.

    I taught myself a little bit of Google Sketchup in my second year at University in order to create some visuals for a project, but illustrating a whole book? It seems a little out of my league! I got kicked off my A Level Art course just five weeks in while I was at school, so confidence in my drawing skills has never been particularly high!

    How do you produce illustrated manuals if you can’t draw?

    Thankfully there are technical illustrators out there who will help you put together illustrated manuals, which is great for people like myself. Who can’t draw. At all. (Well maybe they can draw a little bit, but not enough for a job like this).  And of course they’ll be able to create a style that works with your brand too, making everything feel coherent when you go on to write more books and manuals.

    Sometimes the right option really is to speculatively pay someone to do the bits of the job that you’re not very good at in order to produce a more marketable product overall. You’ve got to take that gamble sometimes, right?

    Being well illustrated can make the difference between a how-to book selling or not, especially in the fast-moving world of e-books and online business. If your manual or book doesn’t get good reviews right from the start, then you’ve already lost a large portion of your sales. Every small business owner will know that a product needs to make an impact the moment you launch it, otherwise you’ll have wasted a considerable amount of time and potentially money too. First impressions stay with people. And once someone has a first impression that is negative of your brand it can be very hard to change that.

    If you’re considering, as I am, producing an illustrated manual on your specialist subject then sometimes it’s better to reach out to people who can help you to create your vision successfully. Occasionally even the solo entrepreneur has to admit that they can’t quite manage to do everything themselves.